How often do we think – “I’m…”. I have at least once said in these writings that “I am shy”. We put ourselves in compartments and others too. It might feel right to say, “I can’t sing”, maybe a bit of a defense, and when we say that, we don’t have to change or try to learn something new or be better at something. Change requires a lot of work and before it is routine, we give up easily. It may not be that difficult to change, but it’s easy to stay within your present comfort zone. Or really you don’t want to leave comfort zone and if you accidentally go outside it you will easily drop back to the starting point.
All these “I’m” or “I do not know” will limit ourselves. Practicing can make us better. By daring to do things, we learn from mistakes and dare to cross our borders – comfort zones. Why do you really want to limit what you do and what you are. We must remember that we are the soul, not our thoughts. While our thoughts determine what we do, what we feel, still we are not our thoughts. Our thoughts can only be limiting for us and make us afraid to try new things or to change.
If you want to change something and you are okay with the present situation, then change is not a must. Then we can change it without fear of failure, because we are already satisfied with the present situation. For example, my shyness made me afraid of giving speech. I remember my book presentation at the age of 15. It was a disaster and I did not want to watch the audience at all, just reading everything from my notes. When I was Business Controller in a earlier workplace, I decided that I just will speak to small audience – I practiced with them as often as I could. Today I speak to 300 people and I am not afraid at all. Speaking to a small audience made me no longer thinking about what the audience thinks of me or my speech. Of course, I still can’t make good speeches, but I’m not nervous at all.
I no longer limit myself to my shyness. You too can get these “I do not know” or “I’m something negative” out of your way, if you stop limiting yourself. The best way is to have a support person who will push you forward and remind you gentle whenever you say, “I don’t know” or “I am …”.
Think positive – be positive!
