Oh no!… Again, I was going to say that the most important thing is… gratitude. All of these virtues are very important. However, if you can be grateful for what you already own, what has happened in your life, then there is a good basis for not just seeing the shortcomings in your life – what someone else has or done and you don’t have. Then the shortcomings are not first in your mind and then the goals are not something you must to have.. because somebody else already has it. It’s like wanting to have something so hard, that’s like you try to get as much water in your hand and press your hand into your fist, so you won’t get any water to stay in your hand. Instead, if you take your hand as a cup and allow your hand to be relaxed, you will get much more water in your hand. In the same way, you will achieve your goals more easily when you know your goals, do a lot of things to achieve them, but the goals are not something you must have – you can leave them floating in your head knowing that they exist, but you don’t must have them. Then you can already enjoy your journey towards the goal – you achieved it or not, you’re still happy. Gratitude makes you need less and you are happy even if you don’t have everything the others have. Even if someone else has something, you don’t see that you don’t have it – you are not missing it – you are not jealous. You are happy with what you have, and you are happy even without things you want most in the world. At the same time, you can do everything on your way to your destination and enjoy the journey, not just when you reach your goal – many don’t even enjoy it because there is something else missing from him or her. You are living in a shortage, unless you learn to be happy and grateful for what you already have. When you don’t have to reach the goal, you can fail to achieve it without the fear of not achieving it and yet you will be grateful for your outcome whatever it is and for the journey. Likewise, you do not have to worry if you will succeed in achieving your goals because you can already enjoy it before you get it. You already have everything. A little more about this later.
Gratitude is also that you understand that people around you are just borrowed to you and they will remain in your life just for a moment. Enjoy their present as long as it last. They are then in your heart when the time has come that they leave you and they will continue their life here on earth or in heaven, and you can let them to always live in your heart. You are grateful to have them in your life as long as it last. Always these are not nice separations, especially those sad once. Then you have to give yourself time to grieve. In fact, when my father and some year later my mother died, I actually cried. Even if you know they just went on their new dimension journey and know that they still are here, you still feel the grief. In the beginning when I thought about them I was sad, because they weren’t any longer present in my life other than in my heart. Then, at some point, grief had gone away when I was thinking on them and instead I was able to feel love in my heart when I thought about them. Of course, it’s easier when you know that the soul continues to live after death. We have memories that we can remember at any time. Then you can choose either grief or love. Over time, sorrow becomes love. The longing is going to go away when you can be grateful for the time together and you can think with love to the people you cared about. Our lives continue, and we are grateful for what we have. At the same time, it is good to understand that we already have everything, and we just have to ask if we need something – not living in lack of things.
Be first grateful for what you already have and what has happened to you. Feel gratefulness in your heart. Let gratefulness fill your empty spaces – just love your life and be thankful that you are you – that is enough. Be fulfilled with what you already have.
Thank you!
