Your map is a simplification of the reality. You can’t put everything on a road map, a navigation map, or just a map of the terrain. That is, the terrain must be simplified and drawn to a map that is not exactly as the terrain. The data your brain gets is enormous and therefore you will get it simplified like a map of the terrain. You filter the data you get from your environment. The filter is set up with things like what you have previously experienced, your culture, your religion, your parents, other people who have been dealing with you, or what you have read or heard, etc. It all affects how you filter your environment. Your map is not like a terrain – the reality. You have to realize that another person has other filters and therefore construe the terrain in totally a different way. Their reality is quite different from the one you have. Remember that these realities are totally different and therefore you both will see the situation in a totally different way.
When two people see the same event, they filter and remember it in a different way. Especially if everything happens quickly and something else draws your attention. Somehow, you think people understand and see things in the same way and then wonder why someone did as you wouldn’t have. You do not understand that with the same filters and the same information you would have acted in the same way as he or she and wondered why you should have to acting differently. When our maps are different we interpret them differently and our reactions are different. Some persons are straightforward and says or asks rudely – or at least you feel like it, but they don’t mean anything bad with it. I just feel like they are attacking me, even if they just ask because they are curious. Sometimes I think why they are so rude and I ask them, and they just say that it was the truth. Their truth and mine is totally different. You have to understand that we all are different and behave differently without that telling anything about them.
You try to put labels on people based on their reaction without realizing their background or what has just happened to them or their interpretation. Try to understand them, love them as they are. Se them as a spirit and love them as a spirit. Your view is not the reality, it’s just one way of seeing things. Be open to others way of seeing things. You will not probably understand them.
Free your mind by En vogue – I love that song!
